Throughout my adult life, I’ve been asked
three questions more than any others:
(1) “Have you always been this joyful?”
Although I’ve experienced an abundance of blessings throughout my life, the short answer to this question is: no. I’ve done plenty of things that hindered my own joy potential. I’ll be sharing more about this in my blogs and classes!
(2) “Are you always this happy?”
Although I feel a tremendous amount of joy on a daily basis, I am a wholehearted advocate for feeling and healthily expressing all of our precious and natural feelings (like sadness, disappointment, frustration, and fear). I’ve made a huge commitment to myself to embrace and love all of my feelings because I know, when I honor them consciously, it becomes the exact pathway to my greatest joy. We’ll be talking lots more about that too! 🙂
(3) “How do you stay so joyful?”
This question is dearest to my heart and the one I’ve been asked the most — from people at the grocery checkout, colleagues, friends, family, my dental hygienist, my car mechanic, neighbors, clients, my mail carrier, people I’ve known for years, and those I’ve just met.
For years, when people asked this question, I would answer something like: “there’s just so much to be grateful for!” But I saw the hunger in their eyes and longed to offer a fuller response, one that would give them clear and easy guidance to experience more joy in their own lives.
Deep down, a small part of me once wondered if I was just really fortunate, lucky, blessed, if I’d somehow won the joy lottery. I even felt guilty at times for how much joy I experienced and sometimes quieted it, denied it, or pretended it wasn’t there.
Then, several years ago, I set out on a quest to
study myself and my life, day in and day out.
How did I experience so much joy?
It only took one day into this self-study for me to realize how often so called “bad” things happened in my life. This realization relieved and delighted me! In fact, in the first months of documenting my life in this way, one of my best friends died young of cancer, my family and I were in a serious car accident, our beloved dog needed two multi-thousand-dollar surgeries, our house renovation went awry, I didn’t get things I thought I tremendously wanted, I had a boss who others quit their jobs just to avoid, I lost and broke things, people were dishonest and didn’t follow through on things, and on and on.
Others around me were struggling through these same kinds of things, and I still felt so much joy, and there were specific (and teachable!) things I was doing to create my joy, things I didn’t see others doing.
From my extensive personal experience of joy, my in-depth study of Positive Psychology and the science of happiness, and thousands of sessions with clients, I can now say, with utmost conviction…
Every single one of us can win the joy lottery.
We can ALL experience more joy.
And I feel so grateful to have developed clear steps and a process
I can now share with YOU to give you your winning joy ticket!